In a Breakfast Television segment, Laura Paris, Associate Lawyer at Shulman & Partners LLP, joined the discussion to offer clear guidance on how individuals and families can navigate the early stages of separation. With divorce rates in Canada rising among certain age groups, the interview aimed to help listeners understand what to expect and how to approach separation with clarity rather than fear. Laura emphasized the importance of communication, timing, and preparation, noting that separation is rarely easy but can be made far more manageable with the right approach. Her insights provided practical starting points for couples, as well as direction for friends and family hoping to support someone going through this transition.
“You want to approach the negotiations of your separation in a manner that you want to see live out in your relationship with your ex spouse.”
— Laura Paris, Associate Lawyer, Shulman & Partners LLP
In the interview, Laura addressed the realities of divorce in Canada, beginning with an honest look at current trends. She noted that the national divorce rate sits around 50 percent, and while the rate differs by age and whether it is a first or second marriage, the overall pattern reflects a steady need for practical guidance and informed decision-making. Laura emphasized that although separation is emotionally charged, the process does not automatically need to become adversarial or chaotic.
She explained that the first step for many couples is often the hardest: having the initial conversation with a spouse. Laura stressed that this discussion should be handled respectfully whenever possible, rather than through third parties or by involving a lawyer prematurely. Approaching separation from a place of basic communication, she said, helps reduce tension and avoids starting the process on unstable ground. While speaking with a lawyer is appropriate at nearly any stage, Laura clarified that legal guidance is most effective once a person has decided to understand their options or is preparing to negotiate terms.
When discussing negotiations, she highlighted a theme that often goes overlooked: how the separation process can influence the long-term relationship between former partners, especially when children are involved. Decisions made in the early stages set the tone for future cooperation, so focusing on fairness and legal reality rather than emotion or retaliation is essential. Laura explained that many drawn-out conflicts arise when individuals resist legal principles or attempt to fight outcomes that are unlikely to change, ultimately increasing stress and legal costs without meaningful benefit.
She also addressed the role of friends and family supporting someone through a separation. Laura encouraged supporters to be compassionate listeners but cautioned against offering legal advice based on personal experience. Every case is shaped by unique facts, she said, and misguided advice can create unnecessary confusion or conflict. Instead, being present, helping with daily responsibilities, and maintaining empathy can make a significant difference for those adjusting to a new reality.
Overall, the discussion underscored the importance of early communication, informed legal guidance, and emotional support when navigating separation.
Watch the full Breakfast Television segment here.
This media appearance is part of Shulman & Partners LLP’s ongoing contributions to Canadian family law discussions. Explore more of our media features in our In the Media archive.