Under Canadian law, getting a divorce is a formal legal process: It involves following specified procedures, filling out certain forms, and taking specific legal steps. Only once these are all completed can you and your ex-spouse be considered formally divorced.
Before you can begin the legal process, you and your ex must be eligible to apply. In law, the prerequisite for obtaining a divorce is that there must have been a breakdown of your marriage. This can be proven in three possible ways:
The next step is to determine the proper Court in which to file for your divorce. That will depend on the broader nature of your dispute, and your location, but generally you must file in the municipality in which you or your ex live. One exception is where you and your ex have a child together and you are asking the Court to grant you custody or access of that child. In that case, you must start the proceeding in the municipality where your child lives.
The Family Law Rules also provide some added stipulations around where to start a case, that my apply to your specific situation.
Under Ontario law, the first step in your divorce will be to file an “Application” with the Court. It contains the formal, written statements that describe your legal claim and position, including:
The contents and nature of the Court Order you hope to obtain will naturally depend on the scope of the dispute between you, and the nature of the proceeding. For example, you may be asking the Court for a Divorce Order, but you may also be asking for corollary relief relating to spousal or child support, or both.
Naturally, your ex will also be required to file his or her responding materials, setting out his or her legal claims and position, and the contents of the requested Court Order.
If you are the person taking the initial step in your divorce, then you are referred to as the “Applicant”, while your ex is referred to as the “Respondent.”
In Ontario, there are essentially three kinds of Applications that may govern your situation:
Your Application for a divorce must fully define the basis on which you are seeking to assert your various legal rights in relation to your ex. This document defines – and often limits – the remedies you will be entitled to pursue.
For this reason, it is highly recommended that you enlist the help of a family lawyer to assist you with this task.
Even though every divorce Application will be different, all are guided by established procedural principles. Foremost among them is the notion that opposing parties in litigation are entitled to receive and respond to each other’s materials, requests made to the Court, evidence tendered, etc.
This means that anything you file with the Court in support of your position must also be provided to your ex-spouse in a format, and on a timeline, specified by the Family Law Rules. Likewise, your ex is under an identical obligation toward you.
This way, you are each fully aware of any issues that may exist between you, and you also know in detail the case your ex-spouse is presenting in support of his or her position.
Every document that you or your ex-spouse submit to the Court is included in what is called the “Continuing Record.” This is essentially a compendium of litigation-related documents and related materials that pertain to your Family Law matter, including the pleadings (i.e. the Application), and responding materials from your ex, copies of any documents that you served on him or her, supporting materials, etc.
There are specific formatting requirements for the Continuing Record, including a specific form of cover page. It must also include a Table of Contents which must be updated any time a new document is added.
Although the Continuing Record is kept by the Court, it is a good idea to keep and organize your own copies of all the materials that pertain to your litigation, for easy reference.
Finally, you should start some financial record-keeping. There is no “right way” to do this, but whatever the approach, your objective is to start organizing the financial information that will be an integral part of your upcoming divorce proceedings. Here are some recommended steps to take:
It’s always a good idea to seek professional assistance for this stage of the divorce process, including an accountant or financial advisor, and a lawyer. Having these professionals on your side will minimize stress, confusion and ultimately cost.