Taking Control of Your Divorce: 7 Tips for Working with your Legal Team

September 29, 2023
Michaela Madden

Article written by Michaela Madden

If you’ve stumbled upon this article, it’s likely that you’re going through a divorce, or at least starting the process of separation. We understand what an emotionally challenging and overwhelming time this can be, and having a reliable and supportive legal team by your side can make all the difference. Divorce lawyers play a vital role in supporting you both personally and professionally during this difficult period, advocating for your rights and guiding you through the complexities of the separation process. But it isn't uncommon to want to feel like you have more control. Here are 7 tips for working with your legal team to take control of your divorce.

1. Be prepared with your questions:

Just like the Boy Scouts, when working with a family lawyer it is always important to be prepared. Prior to any meetings or consultations, take the time to write down any questions you have concerning the divorce and the divorce process. This not only ensures that all important matters are addressed from the start, but it will also save you valuable time and money.

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2. Keep open and honest communication:

It is important to recognize that the lawyer you choose to handle your divorce or separation is 100% committed to YOU! Dedicated to providing you the support you need, the best way to guarantee you are getting the most from your family lawyer is by maintaining open and honest communication with them. This means answering all of their questions truthfully and sharing any information that could be relevant to your matter. This including any potential challenges or concerns you might see arising throughout the process. 

Remember, by law, your lawyer is bound to keep your information confidential unless you say otherwise. While certain things may be difficult to share, telling your lawyer this information provides them with a better picture of the situation, allowing them to build a stronger case and protect you and your children. Remember, any information you fail to disclose may have negative consequences later in court.

3. Discuss settlement options from the start: 

Early discussions about settlement options can help you avoid prolonged legal battles, extra conflict, and additional expenses, especially if children are involved. Settlements can be beneficial for both parties, allowing you to avoid lengthy litigation and the emotional toll that comes with it. It also helps you maintain greater control over the outcome of your divorce.

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4. Keep a continuous record of major incidents: 

As the separation process begins, you should start to maintain a record of major incidents that occurred before or during the divorce proceedings. Your lawyer can use these records to build your case and provide additional evidence if needed. In your record, be sure to include dates, times, locations, and the names of any other parties involved.

5. Gather all financial documents:

For matters involving property division and support, it can be helpful to gather all relevant financial documents in advance. This includes income records, bank statements, tax returns, property valuations, and any outstanding debts you may have. Having this paperwork organized and on hand for your lawyer will give them more time to focus on your case, as well as reduce your legal fees.

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6. Follow your lawyer's recommendations:

One major takeaway we want you to get from this article is to trust your lawyer. Have confidence in their expertise and take their legal recommendations and advice (asking for clarification when necessary). Divorce cases are emotionally charged which means it can easily cloud your judgment leading to impulsive actions that may ultimately harm your case. The best way to take control of your divorce is to trust that your lawyer is committed to protecting your interests. 

7. Choose the right legal team for you 

Working with the right legal team can make or break your divorce case, but finding the best family lawyer is not always an easy process. Luckily, we’ve put together this short step-by-step guide to help you make an educated, confident decision. We are here for you!